If I Don’t Do It Myself, It Doesn’t Get Done - Her Side

A multi-part blog series highlighting the mental load women feel being the household CEO while their neurospicy partner says, "Just tell me what to do!" This series tackles the frustration, the fights, the endless to do list and the love (and gainfully employed individual and couples therapists) that keeps everyone together.

When "Just Tell Me What to Do" Feels Like Another Job

There’s a special kind of exhaustion that comes from carrying the weight of an entire household on your back. Not just the dishes, the laundry and the grocery list—but the invisible labor of remembering it all. Keeping track of school forms, scheduling doctor’s appointments and knowing exactly when we’re about to run out of toilet paper.

And then, just when you're about to crumble under the weight of it all, your well-meaning but easily distracted husband turns to you and says:

"Just tell me what you need me to do."

Cue the deep, weary sigh. Because we both know what happens next.